The Stranger in My Friends List

Are you really my friend? If I’ve accepted that LinkedIn or Facebook request does that mean we are really pals? The kind of buddy, chum, sidekick who would give you the shirt off hisb back?

This question was posed for real last week when I was in a meeting, glancing at Facebook when the little chat/instant messenger tool popped up with a distress signal from a person in my friends list whom I have never actually met,

Can you help me? I’ve been mugged and have lost my wallet, my phone, my credit cards, my cash. Everything.”

$1,000 was needed to settle a hotel bill in a foreign country. All I needed to do was go to westernunion.com and transfer the cash. I’d be paid back immediately. I started Googling the person. He is an entrepreneur with a Wikipedia entry and appears to be a perfectly decent upstanding citizen, yet is a person I have never met, had a beer with, indeed, ever had any contact with before the IM window popped open. How he became a “friend” is beside the point, he was calling a marker I didn’t know I had outstanding.

I have been asked by friends who I accept invite requests from in networks like Facebook or LinkedIn. “Do you know all those people?” I used to answer promiscuously, now I am not so sure. I don’t think I will let people inside of the Churbuckian velvet rope so easily.

No aspersions cast on the poor individual who asked me for money – but I found myself parrying his request with lines like:

“Did you try your credit card company? Surely American Express has a way to help?”

“The police or US Embassy?”

“Your family?

“Of everyone in your friend’s list, why me?”

I didn’t send the money. I was tempted. But in the end, it made no sense. I projected myself in the same situation and asking someone as tenuous as myself in a virtual network would not be where I found the solution. Family member, close friend. No problem.

Author: David Churbuck

Cape Codder with an itch to write

4 thoughts on “The Stranger in My Friends List”

  1. I was friending anyone that asked up until recently. Facebook and LinkedIn are now for people I have met and am friends with, or people I have worked with and might actually consider working with in the future.

    If the random public wants to friend me, they can hit up my blog or catch me on Twitter.

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  2. I’m glad you didn’t get scammed. My antenna would have gone up immediately.

    Thanks for the link Nathan. I just put it on my FB page.

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